As a life coach, I often hear people complain that they aren’t happy with the direction their lives are taking. Some feel stuck in a job or relationship they have no passion for. Others feel alone, bored or unfulfilled. After asking my clients many questions to get to the heart of the matter, I’ve noticed a common theme. They let other people’s opinions, lifestyles and judgments play a huge factor in their decision- making. Sound familiar? We’ve all done it at some point in our lives because we want to fit in, feel validated and please others. You must learn to trust your inner voice.
Take a moment right now and think about a time when you did something for someone else because you thought it would make them happy. Have you ever reluctantly agreed to go on a blind date because you thought it would make your friend happy? Did you take a high paying job in a field you weren’t interested in because you wanted to keep up or impress others? Or have you ever worn a trendy outfit just to fit in but you knew it wasn’t your style? Whatever your scenario is, think about how it made you feel. Were you happy? Did you feel confident? Were you proud of your decision? Or did you feel self conscious, depressed, or full of dread?
Push those feelings aside for a moment and clear your mind. Give yourself permission to really dream big. Let go of the need to censor, judge or bring your thoughts back to “reality”. Allow yourself to fully imagine what life would be like on your terms. Without guilt or outside pressures. In this scenario, you have an abundance of time, freedom and money. Think about your ideal job. Really get clear and write it down. What are you doing and why? Where are you? How much do you make? Now picture your ideal mate. The person who makes you laugh, supports and loves you unconditionally, and encourages you to be the best you possible. Think about how you look? How do you present yourself? Who are the people you’re surrounded by?
Spend some time on this. Write your vision down in great detail. How do you feel now? Is your heart pumping? Do you feel the buzz? Are you re-energized? How do your feelings compare from the ones you experienced in the first exercise?
It’s hard to go against the grain and make different choices from your friends and family. You run the risk of alienating yourself from the group. Stay strong and be courageous. By daring to be different, you open yourself up to a world of incredible and exciting possibilities. Listen to yourself and trust your inner voice. Only you know what’s truly best for you.
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