I’ve often been referred to as the world’s greatest listener. I have also been known for my witty sense of humour, empathic heart and someone who loves the challenge of learning a song in another language. (If you’re a fan of 99 Luftballons, hit me up). I’ve been married to the same guy I met in 1994 on an old school blind date and am a mom to an incredible son and a stubborn yet hilarious Goldendoodle.
I believe that with a positive mindset, deliberate action, accountability and support, everyone has the power to create a life they love.
But I haven’t always loved my life.
In my 20’s I worked in the corporate world as a copywriter in advertising. I quickly realized that working for “the man” was my kryptonite but I stuck around for 5 long, painful years for the security of a paycheck. This complete disregard for my true feelings, lead to anxiety, panic attacks, digestive issues (self diagnosed IBS), insomnia, migraines and total misery. I know first hand what it feels like to sob night after night on a cold bathroom floor.
This is me on my honeymoon in 2001 contemplating my future. As I was staring out at the stunning scenery that surrounded me, I realized that I was wasting my life and jeopardizing my emotional and physical health for the ability to buy the occasional sweater.
I decided right then and there that when I returned home I would quit my job and figure things out.
Over the next few years, I dabbled in party planning and had my own scrapbooking business. But it wasn’t until six months after my son was born in August of 2006, that my EUREKA moment came to me.
Like any new mom, I put myself last in order to take care of my baby. Because of my extreme self- neglect, I felt overwhelmed, exhausted, unhealthy and completely lost. I didn’t recognize myself anymore; not just because I still had 20 pounds of baby weight to lose, but because the ambitious, high-achieving, go-getter that I had once been, was MIA and had been replaced with someone who was fragile, sensitive and totally unsure of herself. And this was all my doing.
When the realization hit me, I vowed that I would do whatever it took to change my life.
I’ve always been a “self-help junkie.” So once I recognized my symptoms of “playing the victim” and staying stuck in my story, I knew it was time to dust off the old books and start to apply everything that I learned.
I began to re-read about and study the principles of Law of Attraction and positive thinking. I was amazed to learn how powerful our thoughts and feelings are and how they directly affect the results we experience. Once I tapped into this universal law, everything in my life changed almost instantly.
I lost twenty pounds in eight weeks and decided it was time to inspire others and fulfil my lifelong passion for personal growth and development. I launched CarlyCooperCoaching.com a few months later and have helped thousands of entrepreneurs build their businesses, attract their ideal clients and live a healthier lifestyle through my book Balance the Mother Load R.E.I.N.V.E.N.T. Your Life In Just 8 weeks, my Get Shift Done Mastery online course, empowering wellness seminars and private coaching sessions. On a personal level, I also joined an amateur theatre group who have become my second family and reignited my passion for performance.
Things were chugging along beautifully, until the all too familiar nagging voices moved back in and bought prime real estate in my head. While I loved being a mom and doing work that fulfilled me, I still didn’t feel like I was good enough. I mean, how many youtube videos did I watch and I still couldn’t fold a fitted bed sheet to save my life! What was wrong with me?!?!?!!?
At that time in my life, I was a real pill popper. I took Advil, Tylenol, Imodium and Gravol (just to fall asleep) like they were daily vitamins. I didn’t know about the long term damage this habit was creating. And to be honest, I didn’t care. I just wanted a quick fix to feel better.
Another defining moment occurred when I was at my routine physical check up and my doctor sensed that I was “off” emotionally. Of course I was off. I was a tired, overwhelmed working mom striving for perfection. It doesn’t take a medical degree to figure that one out! With what I believe were good intentions, she prescribed me a pill called Clonazepam. At the time, I had no idea what this pill was, but I was 1000% going to take it because I trusted my doctor.
When the pharmacist handed me the filled prescription, she asked me if I knew what I was about to take. I confessed that I had no clue and she warned me that this pill is for severe sleep and panic disorder. I was shocked and super grateful that I had been warned. Something didn’t sit well with me so I went home, did further research and learned that this pill had 2 pages of possible side effects, one being suicidal thoughts. Needless to say I flushed the pills down the toilet and made that “day one” of me being my own advocate when it came to my health and the health of my family.
For the record, I have ZERO judgement on people who take these kinds of meds. I am really grateful I live in a place where I have access to doctors, hospitals and medication and the choice to integrate both Eastern and Western practices. What concerned me was that I was so willing to give my power and trust away without doing my own research and being my own advocate.
I started to look into natural solutions. I bought a lavender essential oil from the health food store and quickly threw it away when the synthetic scent gave me an instant headache. A few months later I was introduced to doTERRA essential oils and that was the day where everything changed.
My emotional, physical and financial health have all been blessed because of doTERRA essential oils along with the years I spent studying the Law of Attraction, positive thinking, personal growth and development. I have dedicated my life to educating and empowering others to shift their mindset in order to consistently and deliberately attract positive results in their life and take control of their health in a safe and natural way.
I invite you to come with me on this journey of self-discovery and personal empowerment. Your ideal life is waiting!